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Totally Fell in Love with...

Prophet Muhammad S.A.W Sahaba's... ^^

I went for a talk with my friend on Khalid Al-Waleed R.A. last Friday and I was in aw when I learned about his life and his contribution and character..

The next 2 days, I spent time with the same chingu to attend course on Saydina Umar Al-Khattab R.A. .. I fell in love with his character, his life, his curiousness of every single thing and more...a lot that I learned these 2 days...

I even shed tears on his final moments..

Now am going to be a total fangirl (already am) on other Caliphs,  the great ladies and other Sahaba's as well.. Looking for more books to read about them and looking forward on other courses or talks regarding them.

Tomorrow, will be attending the Heroes Conference, on the Sahaba...

Hoping for another great event turnout! InsyaAllah =)

This is the time I would say, my weekend was totally well spent! Alhamdulillah...I want to learn more on Islamic History slowly...So it will not lost ditelan zaman... ^^

Career Women | Khadija (R.A)

 An inspiring Answer.. =)

Link to Career Women

Perjanjian Roh

Just a sharing..

Perjanjian Roh

Sahabat Awesome

Apabila kita bersahabat, kita disuruh bersahabat kerana Allah. Bukan kerana beliau sedang makan maggi. Ataupun beliau sedang hirup mee. Apatah lagi kalau beliau sedang pegang Ferrero Roche.

Apabila bersahabat, kita disuruh untuk menjaga hati nya. Menjaga hati bermaksud kita mengelakkan hal-hal berkaitan penyakit hati seperti cinta lagha, aktivit lagha mahupun

dosa-dosa kecil besar, daripada sahabat kita tereffect sama. Suruh jaga hati bukan sampai tahap jaga tepi kain, tetapi sampai ke tahap kita nak ikat dan heret mereka masuk ke syurga.

Apabila bersahabat, kita disuruh untuk membantu mereka dalam hal-hal yang memerlukan pertolongan kita. Membantu dengan ikhlas dan tidak akan sesekali mengungkit kembali pertolongan kita itu. Bukannya membantu hanya sebab kita nampak sahabat kita ini ada adik yang comel dan soleh/solehah, mahupun untuk dijadikan modal di waktu lain, untuk minta pertolongan pula (ungkit)

Apabila bersahabat, kita disuruh menjaga aib mereka, seolah-olah itu ialah rahsia yang sangat besar. Malah jagalah sehingga CIA dan FBI pun tak mampu nak bocorkannya. Bukannya menggunakan aib sahabat kita sebagai title besar di Facebook status kita, mahupun dijadikan front page paper Berita Harian.

Apabila bersahabat, ingatlah satu perkara..

Sahabat yang bertemu, bersama dan berpisah kerana Allah, itu adalah antara golongan yang akan mendapat naungan Allah kelak di Padang Masyar. Insha Allah..

“Sahabat yang paling baik adalah apabila kamu melihat wajahnya,
kamu teringat akan Allah, mendengar kata-katanya menambahkan
ilmu agama, melihat gerak-gerinya teringat mati.”

Jom jadi sahabat awesome!

 

 

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Assalamualaikum.....

My post today..is really boring....might not want to read it at all...

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It has been days since my last post...

ok..months....My blog dah bersawang.... huhu...

Honestly, I have not found back my desire to write....yet..this is one of my way to express my thoughts, feelings..

to satisfy the id, ego and superego in me.... (I'm missing 'uncle' Sigmund Freud..hehe)

If I want to describe my life for the past few months... it has always been hectic ..receiving good and bad news..patience being tested every single day... faith being tested as well...ohh..and my health too... =)

A lots of thoughts came into mind.. Loads of things I've wanted to do yet I could not find the time to do it.

Think I have missed a lot... Now am slowly trying to get it back ..while being grateful with what I've got.. Alhamdulillah...

Somehow..I feel like taking a long break..focus on self and family..and think of my option to continue my studies..and these feeling is nothing until I am determined to act upon what I feel.

Will stop here for now...till then.. Salam.. =)

The tango still thinks today's post is boring.. ;)

28 Cartoon Theme Songs in 7 Minutes

haha..this reminds me of childhood.....

Was actually browsing through while working...and found this..

Enjoy! ;)

or the link 8 Cartoon Theme Songs in 7 Minutes CollegeHumor video

-Crdts to the uploader-

Ahlan wa sahlan ya Ramadhan =)

Alhamdulillah

We are able to meet again. Month full of rahmath and barakah..

I felt this time Ramadhan is different....whilst equipping self and family with tadarus, fasting, zikir, tarawikh,  etc....

Smiling with joy when Ramadhan finally here...

Hope we are able to fill this month with more remembrance of who we are as Allah's servant. and this wonderful and most exciting month will pass by smoothly..insyaAllah =)

Salam Ramadhan to all

 

Finding a Soulmate??

Mufti Ismail Menk:-

"Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Hence choosing the correct spouse is one of the most important aspects of our lives. Without proper guidance we would never be able to succeed.

The Messenger pbuh reminds us that our final choice is to be based on the level of consciousness of the Almighty & the level of character & conduct of the intended spouse. That would go a long way in ensuring stability in marriage."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaU1d2YysKs&feature=share

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

credits: the owner of this article...(via email)

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier.  We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore.  Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:   1. Give up your need to always be right.  There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?   2. Give up your need for control.  Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel. “By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu   3. Give up on blame.  Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.   4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.  Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that. “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle   5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible.  From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle   6. Give up complaining.   Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.   7. Give up the luxury of criticism.  Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.   8. Give up your need to impress others.  Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.   9. Give up your resistance to change.  Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it. “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell   10. Give up labels.  Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer   11. Give up on your fears.  Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place. “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt   12. Give up your excuses.  Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.   13. Give up the past.  I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.   14. Give up attachment.  This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.   15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations.  Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Should I call it an intersection?

I really do not know if what I am going to do is a  right thing or is it wrong..

Am I going to make a good or bad decision?

Am I going all out or  just with the flow?

Only He knows the best that is in for me...

One of very huge thing for me to think about...

My life is not that easy to begin with...which made me to be cautious and careful and always thinking when there is intersection in my life. When I have to choose...

Looking for a peaceful mind and heart....

Well, I've heard this mention somewhere..
There is no right or wrong decision made in this life. Once you choose one of the other...you strive for it, you live with it, and that decision maps your future...That is your best decision... If you are not satisfied with that decision made..you can change it for better..
What you plan is not what you get..Allah has better plans for you..

Stages of Life

So many thoughts came into my mind...

family , work , friends , self , life , death....

overwhelming....

going thru this stage of life is not easy....

Juggling...struggling...hoping I will not think of bad things...

Only prayers to Him now...

berusaha + tawakkal = insyaAllah I'll be fine....

A Note of Love to All My Single Girlfriends

Salam...and a very gooood morning..... =) May Allah provide us His blessings today and every single day ;)

What am I doing at this point of time when I was suppose to be working..hehe..

The Privilege of Working from Home...You can open any websites you want; Facebook, Twitter, You Tube yada yada.. However, we shall not abandon our duty as an employee. We are working and gaining halal salary rite?? 

heheh.. few minutes more before my work officially starts, and I stumble upon this article in Facebook shared by my school junior.

A very interesting and reflective article for my own reference, and for all the single ladies out there.. =)

Article by Zarina Ibnatu Zul Mukhshar

http://www.facebook.com/notes/zarina-ibnatu-zul-mukhshar/a-note-of-love-to-all-my-single-girlfriends/10150905386239008

Last night my husband & I went for grocery shopping and we bought not-so-glamorous stuffs for the house like floor cleaner, cooking oil & rice; and then it struck me that we’re so married! Hehe... Alhamdulillah… It got me thinking of the things that I would do instead last night if I was still single; and it reminds me of my single friends who (I assume) like me once – waiting, hoping & looking for Mr. Right. Yes, I was all that, waiting, hoping & looking, and now when Allah sends my husband to me,for me, it happened so quickly, so fast, we were married within two-and-a-half months after the first day we laid eyes on each other! How did it happen? It’s Allah’s decree, no doubt. Alhamdulillah..

Before I deep-dive further into my marriage, I feel that I need to do my part to share with you bits and pieces of advice on the journey of finding ‘the one’. Please take this from my own experience and observation and it is not anyway to be treated like 'the checklist', but I think it will help insyaAllah.

#1 – Be Fair

A friend of mine told me that ‘we’ll get who we deserve’, and many years later I realized and come to my wisdom that it’s true; and to me, it’s even written in the Quran that: “…women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity is for women of purity” – Qur’an 24:26. So ladies, before we list down our criteria in a man that we’re looking for, like “Dia mestilah seorang yang bertanggung jawab, beriman & menghormati orang tua etc., do reflect again are we all that in the first place? Are we responsible? Are we pious? Are we respectful to the elders?

#2 – Hook Up with Allah & Allah will Hook You Up

We are Muslims. And we know that Allah is the Creator and He holds our future, our life. And only from Him we could be guided to find the one, the right one, the good one. So do check out this great article on the explanation of Hook Up with Allah & Allah will Hook you Up. I hold this concept true to my heart during my single days and hopefully you'll find it beneficial too insyaAllah.

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/personaldvlpt/hook-up-with-allah-allah-will-hook-you-up/

#3 – Be Proactive

When I and a few other friends were single, we are inspired by the story of our Mother of the Believers, Khadijah Binti Khuwailid r.a. There is an article on it, which is “Just Because Khadijah Ask” and one of the excerpts in the article says:

“Khadijah asked. Khadijah, may Allah’s Mercy be upon her, asked about Prophet Muhammad for marriage. She initiated the communication. She sent someone on her behalf to find out if he was available for marriage. And it was because she asked, that she got that blessed answer. And with that answer, was the beginning of the of the greatest stories of love for all times, and also one of the greatest examples of a true muhsina and mumina. A woman older than him, previously married with children, was inquiring about a younger bachelor, from one of the best tribes in town.  The honor of his acceptance wasn’t just hers alone. It was his too. He was going to marry one of the most beautiful hearts in all of Mecca. A woman who’s heart would sacrifice everything she had to support him, and Islam. Khadijah asked.”

Check out this website for the article:

http://muslimmatters.org/2010/08/02/because-khadijah-asked-an-alternative-path-to-meeting-mr-right/

I’m not saying just get out there and ask any male passers-by if they’re single and looking; but be truthful to begin with. The next time your aunts asking you when you’re getting married?; instead of replying “I just want to focus on my career for now”, please remove your ego and say “I have not found one, why not you introduce me to someone Aunty? I am ready to settle down.” They will usually quickly think of someone for you, or the at least they will think of you when the next time any of her friends start asking for any single girls to marry their bachelor sons, and if that doesn't happen too, the very least they will stop asking you when and that will lift unnecessary pressure.

Besides that, be active in community service, environmental projects, language classes, or any halal activities of your interest. You’d tend to meet more people outside your regular circle of friends, and raise the possibilities of meeting the one; and best of all he will share the same interest as you. Sharing the same interest is always a good thing to begin with.

#4 – He will be the Father of Your Children

I went for a talk by Yunus Kathrada, he told us a story of a man who went to see a Syeikh to seek advice on his newborn child. Which is good to always seek advice, but the Syeikh responded to the man “It’s too late”. Why? The Syeikh said that the process of raising an excellent child begins even before we get married - by selecting a good spouse to begin with. I have heard stories about girl meets boy at Hard Rock Café, at Zouk nightclub and what else have we. I cannot say that couples met at all these places would be heading to a crappy marriage, but think about it. Don’t we all want a good beginning for our union that would bear us pious and righteous kids in the future?

For a very good lecture on this, it brought tears to my eyes. Allahuakbar. Please YouTube search this: "Mufti Menk parent~child relationship"

Maybe what I'm trying to say also is, all human are born with a fitrah, an innate feeling of returning to the Almighty Allah. No matter how naughty we are at a point of our lives, at the back of our heads I'm sure we'll be thinking "I will repent and return to Allah one day". But, if girl meets boy at nightclub, and then they get married, years later the girl feels like she wants to get closer to Allah while the boy still would like to party; then we'll see a problem when the girl starts going to religious classes and want to go for Umrah, while her husband refuse to even pray his solat. Which of the parents will the children look up to and follow? Let's think far, and choose wisely. 

Besides that, observe his temperament & his reaction towards children – the last thing you would want when you’re married with 3 kids crying in your arms, you ask for his help with the kids and he says.. “You know right honey, me and kids just don’t gel”…

#5 – Eliminate, Banish Your Baggage

I believe there is wisdom for free-mixing and dating is haraam in Islam. We all know that GF-BF concept is superficial; we will never get to know the true color of someone until we live with them – day in, day out. If you are still not convinced that dating is haram, the are a lot of hadiths to prove it, but I will share one here that I feel so strong about:

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” 

-Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh. 

Don't tell me people who "couple" and "date" don't even touch each other. Dating/couple/in a relationship is haram my dears. Fear Allah and seek for his help to give you strength to do the right thing.

And to me, the other ugly side of this “dating” relationship is, it does not always have the happy ending. I have heard stories of a bride crying on her wedding day when her ex-boyfriend called her up for a last good bye, some still can’t get over their exes even after having children; some still secretly get in touch with their exes just to ask “How have you been”?” subhanAllah… May Allah protect us from this.

If you still have issues or still cannot get over an ex, deal with it now. It will fog-up your path to find the one, and you will always have the shadow of your ex over your decision on moving on with another man. You would only want to have a vision of you and your husband and your kids in the future, and not the thought of “How would it be if I marry him instead?” Wise up, girls!

#6 – Be Selective, Not Picky

I believe there is a fine line between being selective and picky. To me, if you decline a proposal from a guy that is pleasing to the eyes, well mannered and has a stable income; but he smokes & you realized that he seldom attends Friday prayers, then yes you're being selective. But if you decline a proposal from a guy that is pleasing to the eyes, well mannered, has stable income, doesn't smoke, and is Allah-fearing, but he is a mommy's boy (or he's balding, or he has an interesting hobby of collecting dried leaves) then you're being picky.

Key thing to remember here “Deal Breaker”. If he has or lacks of certain pivotal quality/characteristic that you cannot live with/without then it is big reason not to marry him. For example, if you know you're a career driven person and have major career ambitions but your potential husband wants you to eventually quit your job to look after the kids then that's the “Deal Breaker”. But please do not confuse deal breaker with differences. For example, if you like to eat Japanese and hates Italian food but he cannot bear the thought of eating raw fish but loves pasta, this is not deal breaker. Both of your can still work around differences and it is silly to have a big fight over which restaurant to go have dinner. But “Deal Breakers” are something that could most likely put a strain in a marriage in which failing to manage could lead to divorce. See the significance?

However, please try not to overanalyze and being hypercritical. Another key thing to remember is: Nobody Is Perfect, and no sayang, not even you.

#7 – Be Ready to Give (Up)

Marriage is not all about sex. It's not all about him showering you with endless love and affection. It's not all about cuddling & curling up together in the bed every night. Yes, it is all that, but it is not all and everything about that. It's not all about you! Marriage needs sustenance, and it does not come for free, you need to work for it. You need to give. Just like how we expect our men to know manly stuffs like how to change the car tyre when it punctures or know to repair a leaking pipe or how to assemble a DIY baby cot; I'm sure men would also expect the wives to know womanly stuffs like how to cook, how to do laundry properly and perhaps iron man's work clothes.

Of course most of us could say that it's the modern world now, women don't need to know how to cook and clean and that we can get a maid to do all that. But would you really want to get a maid to cook your husband's meals & iron your husband's work shirts? I know it's easier said than done, but who say that to maintain a happy marriage is effortless & easy?

Ready to give, includes being ready to give up. Do you have male friends who you often hang with, or who to you “we're just friends?” or “we've been friends for so long he's like a brother to me”? Guess what? After you're married, I would need to advice you to give them up like a bad habit. I know along the years we have made so many friends including guy friends, but once we're married we CANNOT hang out with them anymore. I am not saying we cannot be friends anymore, but it is with loads of limitation. I trust that you would use your wisdom on how to draw the line. Even though you future husband is the “coolest” guy on earth (and Allah forbids) he allows you hang out with any of your guys friends, once you're being seen by other people hanging out with another guy other than your husband, you've lit a spark for fitnah and speculation which will spread like wildfire. Imagine a neighbour saw you walking with your male friend at a mall, and she tells your mother in-law. High voltage drama huh?

Trust. Could take years to build, but only a minute to destroy.

#8 - It's Him Not His Money

So, he drives a BMW and earns RM20k a month? OR So, he drives his father's first car and don't really have a proper job? BUT I say So what?

Often times girls will look for a man that is wealthy and rich - that's completely common. Its a biological and psychological thing. We need look for men that can "hunt & gather" to provide security, shelter and food to take care of us and our young. It's a survival thing.

However, either he is rich or broke; he is actually rich or broke NOW. Who are we to say that their wealth will be there forever, or that they will earn very little money for lifetime? The key point to stress, is his deen (iman) & character. Does he have the right knowledge and iman to guide you and your young. Does he have maturity and good character to endure the challenges of the world and maried life? They say money is the #1 cause of divorce nowadays. But do you think it's the money or how the married couple deal and manage when they're stuck in a situation that involves money?

I am not saying, go into marriage blindly but please use your wisdom and not your desire. He may not have much today, but if you see that he has the willpower to work hard to earn a better living and you believe with all your heart that Allah is All Provider, insyaAllah you'll be fine.

For me, during the ta'aruff (introduction meeting) with my then-not-yet-husband, I asked him about his education. To me and maybe to a lot of parents education is key. Personally, I don't mind if he is a burger flipper at Ramly Burger (he's not by the way), but if he has a qualification, or a degree or something, insyaAllah he has something to fall back on. I didn't ask him about how much he's earning or anything like that, because it's not important to me. Have faith in Allah that He is The All Provider.

From Umar ibn Al-Khattab from the Prophet (sas) who said:

"If only you relied on Allah a true reliance, He would provide sustenance for you just as He does the birds: They fly out in the morning empty and return in the afternoon with full stomachs."

Ahmad, An-Nasaa’I, Ibn Majah, Al-Hakim and At-Tirmidhi who said: "Hassan sahih"

#9 – Know the Rights of Husband & Obligations of Wife, Vice Versa.

A lot of us dreams of getting married one day to wear nice dress on the wedding day. But after the wedding day is over a whole new world of responsibilities await you and him. Both husband and wife has a list of responsibilities within the Islamic guidelines. Read them up, study them. By abiding to this guidelines, almost certainly we can maintain a happy marriage by the will of Allah.

But often, during tense and trying times the husband and wife would usually accuse each other of not full filling his/her rights. For example the husband would say “You should beautify yourself for me and not look like a mess at home!”; and the wife would say something like “You're supposed to provide a home for us, but we been living with your housemate for months now!”

A key guideline to this is to prioritize your obligations as a wife and to respect the rights of the husband. And vice versa of course. Know your obligations, what you should do, your responsibilities BEFORE thinking about your rights, his obligations, what he should do and his responsibilities.

So now.. can you manage to fulfill all your obligations? Are you such a strong-headed person that would be able to listen to your husbands advice? Do you have the right attitude to be kind to your husband? Do you still think that after you're married you can do whatever you want and allow anybody into your house without your husband's permission? What would you do if you have a long tiring day at work but you need to fulfill your husband's physical desire? Do you have the right motivation to beautify yourself (at home) to be pleasing to his eyes with your appearance? Basically, do we have the right mindset to strive to be a good wife? Or do we still think it's all about me, me, me?

Please ponder on this hadith:

Qays ibn Sa'd Narrated: I went to al-Hirah and saw them (the people) prostrating themselves before a satrap (governor of a province in ancient Persia) of theirs, so I said: The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) has most right to have prostration made before him. When I came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him), I said: I went to al-Hirah and saw them prostrating themselves before a satrap of theirs, but you have most right, Apostle of Allah, to have (people) prostrating themselves before you. He said: Tell me , if you were to pass my grave, would you prostrate yourself before it? I said: No. He then said: Do not do so. If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah. [Hadith: Sunan Abu Dawud, 11:2135]

Heavy. I know... :(

But marriage is such a pure & beautiful thing that if we fulfill every obligations for the sake of Allah, we shall be rewarded for every effort insyaAllah.

Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”

insyaAllah...Yeay!! :D

#10 – It is the Marriage, Not the Wedding

I think we heard countless times that engaged couples are putting off marriage because they do not have enough money to hold the wedding. If you're imagining a wedding with rotating wedding cake, nasi minyak lobster menu, tents decorated with thousands of tulips from Amsterdam, haute couture Vera Wang wedding dress and French Riviera honeymoon (ok, I'm exaggerating here but you get the picture) - then no wonder why you need to put off your wedding.

But my dears, it's really not all about the wedding. Some of my friends asked me whether it was the happiest day of my life; I had a little trouble answering that because leading after the wedding is what matters more to me. The whole lifetime with this person that you should treat him as part of you; and build a family with children whom are the coolness of our eyes. InsyaAllah.. and that thought itself could make one very happy.

It's not about the wedding stuffs. I remember people who attended my wedding and the precious moments. How I was overwhelmed with emotions when my dad hugged me tightly before the akad nikah & my mom whispered "you'll always be my baby" during the akad nikah ceremony. And the happiest thing I could remember on my wedding day was holding his hand for the very first time. That was surreal, I loved it so much. See? I don't remember much about the wedding stuffs; although they're really nice - the dress, the pelamin, the bunga telur, Alhamdulillah, but I don't remember that time and again.  I always have this theory, the longer it takes to prepare a wedding the harder it gets to let the wedding itself go... After 1 year (or even more) of preparing, it will all be over in 2 days, and you'd go.. "That's it? That's The wedding?" So please, once you have met the right person to marry, go ahead with it – quickly.

Some really good books on preparing yourselves for marriage, I would recommend:

1. The Muslim Family Series by Muhammad Mustafa al-Jibaly

2. The Ideal Muslimah by Dr. Muhammad Ali Al Hashimi

Can get them from Dakwah Corner Bookstore -  http://www.dakwahbookstore.com.my

Some really good speakers I love listening to (YouTube them):

1. Mufti Menk

2. Nouman Ali Khan

3. Mussab Wadji Akkari

So there you go. A little note of love from the quite newly married me to all my single sisters. I always make du'a for Allah to hasten the jodoh for all my single sisters with a pious and great men who will be the coolness of their eyes. Please make loads of du'a for yourselves too. Never lose hope in the mercy of Allah.  “Hook up with Allah and Allah will hook you up”, remember? :)

A wife is like a gift to a man. And there is a hadith that goes like this:

"This world is just temporary conveniences, and the best comfort in this world is righteous women.” - Sahih Muslim 10/56.

So prepare yourself to be a gift (and not a test) to your future husband, so that one day he will hold you and look lovingly in your eyes and say “Alhamdulillah”.

~END~

Do share if you feel this would benefit others, insyaAllah.

Please make doa for Allah to shower me & my family with His mercy and keep us steadfast on the right path. Ameen

 P/S: And the tango thinks that this is an article with mirror effect. Looking into my own mirror and reflecting on my self ...

Alhamdulillah

A good news today...

My best friend has walked into a new path of life...

As a mother....

Baby Girl.. =)

I have not get the chance to meet the lil princess yet...can't wait to meet her

Alhamdulillah... =)

Forgotten Promises

Is my niece fav song...mine too! =)

Sami Yusuf

Purification

Purification is half of the faith. [Muslim]

There is a great deal of difference of opinion as to what the Prophet, peace be upon him, exactly meant by this statement. Below are some of the explanations that have been offered by the scholars:

"Purification is similar to half of the prayer."

"Purification is half of the faith because it encompasses the outward form of submission."

"Purification from associating partners with Allah and sinful living is half of faith."

"Purification in the sense of avoiding sins is half of the faith."

"Performing ablution is an act of faith."

"Ablution is half of the faith because it removes the external impurities."

"Purification of the heart from its spiritual diseases is one half of faith."

Many of the above meanings are consistent with each other and it is possible that more than one of them is meant. Purification may mean the general sense of purification or it may mean the specific act of ablution.

Compiled From:
"Commentary on the Forty Hadith of al-Nawawi" - Jamaal al-Din M. Zarabozo, pp. 868, 869

-from Friday Nasiha,  Issue 677 (16 March 2012)

There are some things

that need self conscientious.....

Hello to Myself....



http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=jer-qOP59YE

reflection from my own mirror.....

Like the rice plant, the more its buds are filled with grain, the more it bows downward

Seems like I am doing the other way around....

Looking ugly huhh..

 

Jangan Izinkan Aku Jatuh Cinta Andai Masanya Belum Tiba ...

=)
 via:-
http://www.iluvislam.com/tazkirah/remaja-a-cinta/4122-jangan-izinkan-aku-jatuh-cinta-andai-masanya-belum-tiba.html

Ya Allah,
Andai masanya belum tiba,
Jangan izinkan aku untuk jatuh cinta,
Aku memohon agar Kau tunjukkan jalan,
Agar Kau tunjukkan aku tuntutun yang perlu aku lakukan,
Jauhkanlah aku daripada kemaksiatan,
Jauhkanlah aku daripada perkara yang tidak dapat memberi manfaat,
Dan jauhkan aku daripada perkara yang Engkau murkai,
Agar aku dapat menjaga diri.

Ya Allah,
Jika aku jatuh cinta,
Izinkanlah aku menyentuh hati seseorang yang hatinya tertaut pada-Mu,
Jadikanlah aku yang mencintainya kerana agama yang ada padanya,
Jika dia hilangkan agama yang ada dalam dirinya,
Maka hilanglah cintaku padanya,
Sesungguhnya, cinta yang suci itu tidak buta.

Ya Allah,
Dan jika dia mencintai aku,
Biarkanlah dia mencintai aku kerana agama itu juga,
Asalkan dia tidak lebihkan cinta kepadaku melebihi cinta kepadaMu,
Supaya cinta itu bersemi di lembayung keredhaan-Mu,
Kerna dari situ lahirlah rahmah dan mawaddah dalam rumahtangga.

Ya Allah,
Jika ini bukan masanya,
Jika ini belum saatnya,
Dan jika Kau tahu kami belum bersedia,
Selamatkan kami,
Jarakkan kami,
Pisahkan kami,
Agar kami jauh dari khilaf yang merosak izzah dan iffah,
Agar kami tak mengundang murka-MU,
Agar kami dapat lebih menjaga hati,
Agar hati menjadi yang diredhai ilahi.

Ya Allah,
Andai dia bukan untuk ku,
Andai dia bukan jodohku,
Maka berilah ganti yang lebih baik buatnya,
Berikanlah dia insan yang benar benar terbaik buat kehidupannya,
Insan yang benar-benar mampu memimpinnya ke syurga-Mu,
Dan bantulah aku untuk memperbaiki diriku,
Agar aku kukuh dalam mencari cinta-Mu.

Ameen..

=)